c.t.,girl (post: 1496989) wrote:Wow...
I have known people who have been overweight, but once they do get accepted by their special person they then want to become the most attractive person for them (and do so and look amazing now).
c.t.,girl (post: 1496989) wrote:Also, what if the girl you fall for is SUPER PRETTY, but as you get to know her you notice has a horrible personality? ...Or is just plain dumb and can't spell? ...Or crazy to the point where she stabs you because you were trying to get your car keys so you could get away from her?
Kaligraphic (post: 1496949) wrote:Okay, I think we've got some misunderstandings going on here.
First, it's okay to be honest about physical attraction. How many people are you planning to marry, anyway? You're going to meet a lot of people in your life, and you're going to not marry most of them. Like Jingo Jaden said, you're going to have to find your own spouse. There is no "destined one" whom you must find and marry regardless of physical attraction in order to fulfill some cosmic plan.
Second, you don't need to get married right now. If you haven't met someone you want to marry, relax. Don't worry about it. Just get out there and meet people, and eventually you will meet someone you want to marry, but that doesn't mean you need to agonize about it right now.
Third, sorting by physical attraction is not "shallow" in a bad way, it's a valid way of avoiding a mutually unsatisfying relationship. Let's face it, marriage requires physical intimacy. If you don't want to be intimate with your spouse, you're essentially locking them into a relationship and then rejecting them. That's not fair to either of you. If you're only in the relationship for the looks, that's another thing, but I don't see any reason to believe that's the case here.
Fourth, not everybody is or should be attracted to the same things. One person may like rubenesque women, another may like sticks. They'll both find someone who is beautiful to them. Just because one person doesn't find someone attractive doesn't mean that nobody else will. Remember, you're probably only going to marry one person at a time, so it's not like you have to be attracted to everybody.
And fifth, let's not judge one another over what they do or don't find attractive. They're the ones who have to live with whoever they marry.
dothackzero (post: 1496990) wrote:Wait you mean like become thin for him. I guess it would be possible. That's actually something that happening with my best friend. He just got a girlfriend, and she's planning on thining out for him. Though I never thought of her as fat, more she just has a bigger body build than normal.
dothackzero (post: 1496990) wrote:Actually I can't really spell. :p But yeah, I agree that personaility is extremely important. But their needs to be atleast some physical attraction to her. btw, there is no way I could stand being having a girlfriend that just "plain dumb" or crazy.
Cognitive Gear (post: 1496994) wrote: Granted, part of the reason that physical attraction isn't the most important aspect is because as you get to know someone, they will either become more or less physically attractive to match your attraction to their personality.
c.t.,girl (post: 1496996) wrote:Also, the girl who lost weight for a guy, yes she was pretty chunky, but he didn't care, and soon after, he asked her to marry him. She then made herself attractive, like whoa.
dothackzero (post: 1496841) wrote:Basically I'm just worried that I'll get a girl that's overweight or something that I'd find really unattractive in a girl. Basically, the only reason I'm asking this is because the only girl that I know that's into the stuff that I am in real life isn't that attractive to me.
dothackzero (post: 1496937) wrote:Let me put it this way. Looks aren't the number 1 thing I'm looking for in a girl. I am more interested that she a Christian, her relationship with God. Then obviously the the personalty and interests. But the looks gotta be their too, I'm not saying that I'm looking for a super model, just a girl that looks good to me.
Yuki-Anne (post: 1497008) wrote:GOD IS NOT A SPOUSE VENDING MACHINE
Kaligraphic (post: 1496949) wrote:Okay, I think we've got some misunderstandings going on here.
First, it's okay to be honest about physical attraction. How many people are you planning to marry, anyway? You're going to meet a lot of people in your life, and you're going to not marry most of them. Like Jingo Jaden said, you're going to have to find your own spouse. There is no "destined one" whom you must find and marry regardless of physical attraction in order to fulfill some cosmic plan.
Second, you don't need to get married right now. If you haven't met someone you want to marry, relax. Don't worry about it. Just get out there and meet people, and eventually you will meet someone you want to marry, but that doesn't mean you need to agonize about it right now.
Third, sorting by physical attraction is not "shallow" in a bad way, it's a valid way of avoiding a mutually unsatisfying relationship. Let's face it, marriage requires physical intimacy. If you don't want to be intimate with your spouse, you're essentially locking them into a relationship and then rejecting them. That's not fair to either of you. If you're only in the relationship for the looks, that's another thing, but I don't see any reason to believe that's the case here.
Fourth, not everybody is or should be attracted to the same things. One person may like rubenesque women, another may like sticks. They'll both find someone who is beautiful to them. Just because one person doesn't find someone attractive doesn't mean that nobody else will. Remember, you're probably only going to marry one person at a time, so it's not like you have to be attracted to everybody.
And fifth, let's not judge one another over what they do or don't find attractive. They're the ones who have to live with whoever they marry.
ChristianKitsune (post: 1496935) wrote:Well, to be honest, Yamamaya, it doesn't matter WHAT a person looks like, be they tall, short, fat, skinny, we are all made up of genetics and things that pretty much tell us how easy it is to lose or gain weight. (there is also some responsibility such as what you eat, and what sort of exercise you are doing)
I know some girls who eat way more than I do, and they are incredibly skinny. Where I just look at a small piece of cake and I gain 2 pounds XD.
c.t.,girl (post: 1496996) wrote:Also, the girl who lost weight for a guy, yes she was pretty chunky, but he didn't care, and soon after, he asked her to marry him. She then made herself attractive, like whoa.
Hats wrote:"Frodo! Cast off your [s]sins[/s] into the fire!"
FllMtl Novelist (post: 1497023) wrote:Maybe she lost weight to fit into her wedding dress?
Yuki-Anne (post: 1497008) wrote:I want to focus on "I'm just worried that I'll get a girl..."
Dude, GOD IS NOT A SPOUSE VENDING MACHINE, which is basically what your post makes him sound like. I'll just insert my prayer quarters, turn the weird, ridiculously hard to move handle of faith, and I SHALL INSTANTLY BE BESTOWED WITH ONE OF THE TEN WIFE MODELS DISPLAYED ON THE FRONT OF THE GOD MACHINE. I just hope I don't get that chubby one. Or the black one. Or the one that dresses like a grandma.
While I do agree that there is something seemingly serendipitous and magical about romance that I somehow am not privy to, there's also a considerable amount of effort that must be put into a relationship. I don't care if God literally drops an amazing woman on your doorstep, if you've got that weird attitude that you're entitled to a wife simply because YOU WANT ONE, your relationship is probably going to fail. You have to put work into a relationship for it to work.
So don't be worried that you'll somehow miraculously "get a wife" and the miraculously gotten wife won't be attractive to you. Because that's not going to happen. You've got to work, and unless you're a desperate idiot you're not going to work to marry someone you don't want to marry.
PS If God does miraculously grant you a wife you should be flippin grateful for her instead of whining about how your MIRACULOUS WIFE doesn't fit your expectations. Because, trust me, you're not going to fit hers, either. Especially if you whine about how horrible your MIRACULOUS WIFE is.
PPS Who wants to form a band with me? We'll name it MIRACULOUS WIFE.
PPPS Without taking into consideration how many people on this site might be overweight and hurt by your words, you made a post like that, which actually isn't what I'd consider to be merited material for a valid discussion. That, sir, was not the move of a gentleman. That was, in fact, what total jerks tend to do. So, I ask you, is that really how you want to portray yourself on this website?
No.Will God give me a wife that will look good to me?
Radical Dreamer (post: 1497026) wrote:I agree with ALL OF THE THINGS in this post. XD So I am quoting it for truth. XD
Also if I could play an instrument I'd totally be in that band. XDD
ABlipinTime (post: 1497055) wrote:Besides, "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder". I'm surprised no one quoted that yet. Oh wait, I just did.
Besides, "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder". I'm surprised no one quoted that yet. Oh wait, I just did.
evamom (post: 1497059) wrote:I was going to say that earlier, this afternoon. So I am glad somebody make that famous quote.
I am from a culture that really appreciate curves and all. So can testify that indeed that Quote is true.
ABlipinTime (post: 1497055) wrote:3) Is there something wrong with staying single? You don't have to get married. You could simply devote yourself to God.
Like Rusty said, "in a few short years she's going to be old and saggy ".
Furen (post: 1497066) wrote:Moving on to the point I wanna make (and this is old, but I'll post it anyway)
BEING SINGLE IS AWESOME
And no A/C we didn't .... wait, where'd he........ go?
Yuki-Anne (post: 1497070) wrote:Dude... seriously, I'm 23. Do I want to get married? Yes, but I'm not going to let it get me down that I'm single. We've got time. What is it exactly in your life that you hate so much that you think marriage is going to solve?
PS Being single is still awesome at 23. Just sayin'.
dothackzero (post: 1497067) wrote:Not after being single for 23 years.
dothackzero (post: 1497067) wrote:Not after being single for 23 years.
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